After a long conversation I had with a friend last night I realised one thing, my Uwan (grandma) was surely one in a million.
I was so thankful that she raised Papa so differently that he was taught and trained to treat the female equally with respect. For as long as you live under the same roof, house chores are everyone’s responsibility. As simple as that. There’s no such thing as ‘this ain’t my thing’ or ‘I’m not going to doing this cuz my sister/mother should be doing it’.
He then raised us – his girls not to accept even a slightest disrespectful behaviour from the male. Education is the key if you don’t want to be treated like a ‘second class citizen’. Education in this context is not merely a scroll of a degree but also the importance of being a “street smart”. These two goes hand in hand especially when life gets tough.
It’s true, isn’t it? How many of us women out there, who are still holding on for they are too scared to be alone. Too scared not be able to do stuff cuz they were taught that there’s a limit to their capabilities.
The female shouldn’t be asking question. All they need to do is to agree to everything that being told just because.
Or was told that ‘if you leave, no one would ever want to be with you‘.
The limiting culture somehow has been embedded so deep that it’s hard to get rid and anything that goes against it is considered as an act of rebellious.
I’m not saying that us women are better than the men or vice versa. No way. We are all capable of doing things on our own if only we try.
If only we try.
Amy H.
Note:
Here’s to everyone who’s still trying to get out from a harmful relationship in particular. May you see the light. May every step that you’re taking no matter how small they are will finally get you to the destination that you deserve. One thing for certain, you surely deserve respect.